3. It teaches kids the positivity in conflict
Conflict is often misunderstood to be confrontational. But conflict should be a positive thing. It is supposed to be a healthy process of different but good ideas competing in order to birth a better, more inclusive idea. Conscious parenting appreciates that fact. Instead of snapping back at a child for “being rude”, a conscious parent seeks to know why the child feels so strongly about the issue at hand. When hurt by the child’s “rudeness”, the conscious parent requests timeout in order to breathe and think about their feelings. They encourage the kid to take a break too and interrogate their feelings. In the end, the child understands that conflict is a natural and healthy process that doesn’t have to be confrontational.
4. It makes kids want to listen in order to understand, not to impress the parent
Sometimes children listen to their parents just not to get in trouble. That is especially the case when parents are manipulative and condescending. But when your child notices you are more interested in understanding their position as opposed to railroading them towards an “appropriate” outcome, they feel the need to listen. When you are responsive and calm to whatever the child does, they get curious to understand your position a little deeper. They follow your ways out of respect and admiration as opposed to fearing your overreaction if they don’t agree with your position.
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5. Parents get closer with their kids
Conscious parents are compassionate and patient. They build mutually-respectful relationships with their kids. Take technology, for example. Instead of banning tech devices in the home, conscious parents become good role models for their digital children. They play games together, set limits around technology together, and abide by the ground rules together. The parent takes time to explain to their kids about internet safety and the dark side of technology (cyberbullying, phishing scams, stalking, identity theft, etc.). The parent buys VPN to protect the whole family. That’s, of course, after checking out good reviews of different VPNs on the internet. The parent makes well-informed decisions in regards to their child’s safety online, without hurting the child’s tech curiosity.
6. It boosts relationship skills in kids
Conscious parenting promotes deep conversations between parents and kids. Adults are well equipped with high-quantity and high-quality language and conversation skills, but their children aren’t as versed. They can only grow these skills if they engage regularly and respectfully with adults (their parents) right from early childhood. Deep, meaningful conversations boost kids’ cognition and their overall development. Such kids show fewer signs of aggression even later in their adulthood, so they easily form friendships.
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Final word about conscious parenting
Conscious parenting is never easy. It will take you lots of time and effort to gather the internal control needed to self-reflect before reacting to your child’s behavior. It won’t happen overnight and it probably will be messy in the beginning. The most important thing is not to lose focus on the real prize no matter how hard it gets.